Wednesday, June 16, 2010

10 things I learned from a famous psychic

by Brittany Geragotelis

photo credit: Touchstone
I just finished reading the book Don't Kiss Them Good-Bye by Allison DuBois. And not the TV version who helps the cops catch killers on the wildly popular show, "Medium." I'm talking about the real Allison DuBois—the one that the show is actually based on.

Yep, "Medium" is based on a real woman named Allison DuBois, who is a medium and psychic, lives and grew up in Arizona and is a jury consultant for the district attorney's office. She also has a husband named Joe who's a rocket scientist and three daughters who all have shown psychic abilities.

In Don't Kiss Them Good-Bye, Allison lets readers in on her daily life: what it's like to be a psychic, what we should know about the dead, how parents can help their kids develop their own special abilities. Now, I'm totally open to psychics and believe that there are people out there who are more intuitive than others. I can't presume to know everything that exists in the universe, so I choose to keep my mind open to all possibilities, and the idea that there are those who can see the future, talk to those who have passed...well, just the thought intrigues me. So, what did I learn from the real Mrs. Allison DuBois? Take a look:

photo credit: Allison DuBois
1. There's a reason you attract the wrong people. "I felt as if I sometimes attracted people who had bad energy. Dark entities are naturally attracted to light and will try to manipulate it. A dark entity can see a light entity from a mile away."

2. You can't stop death. "I knew that my dad was going to pass and I knew the cause. Trust me, I did everything to prevent it, but found out it had not been in my hands; it never had been. When someone's number is up, it's up."

3. You may not be "just seeing things." "Sometimes I thought I was hallucinating. I could see faded human figures standing next to people. I was overloaded by the other side and I didn't even know it."

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4. Don't ignore the voice in the back of your mind saying to run. "I know in my heart that if I had stayed put even thirty seconds longer, I would have been pulled through the window of that car and been a victim of a violent crime. I also know that because I listened to that powerful, authoratative voice on that hot afternoon in 1983, I am here to share my life story with my readers. I listened and I survived. Listen to your guides, whether you feel they are angels, family members on the other side, or simply guardians. They try to guide us through life safely and successfully, so pay attention to them. Don't dismiss them. Don't question whether they are really there—they are."

5. There is a reason for the madness. "Sometimes it's not in the grand plan that profilers ever find the murder victim. Sometimes others' lives are supposed to be affected by the discovery of a body—for instance, a hiker may be meant to stumble upon someone's remains."

photo credit: Allison DuBois
6. Work on keeping a childlike mind. "Children are easier for spirits to access than adults are. Adults have issues and emotional walls built up that can make it difficult for a spirit to come through to them. Often a spirit has whispered messages or tried to be seen by a loved one, only to be dismissed. We have to realize as human beings that sometimes something bigger than us can call the shots. Feel loved and connected and try not to get bogged down in the whys, because eventually we all receive the answers to our questions."

7. Go with your gut. "Encourage your kids to trust their first instincts and the original information received. They shouldn't alter the information by mixing in preconceived notions."

photo credit: Allison DuBois
8. Your feelings of overstimulation may not be social anxiety. "My oldest daughter occasionally comes to me and says that she feels crowded. By this I know she means that she is experiencing strong spirit activity and is feeling the people she sometimes can't see. Sensitive people (those who are extremely empathetic or feel other people's energy around them) sometimes feel bombarded by too many energies at once. This type of thing can happen to anyone. Most people have had the experience of standing next to someone and for no apparent reason being repelled, not by the person's appearance, but by a feeling that they get from him or her."

9. It really is about the vibes you get from people. "People are drawn to others who seem to have an approachable energy or an energy similar to theirs. People have their own individual energies and, like personalities, these energies vary. What one person finds attractive, another person might find repellent. The more people are clustered around you, the more variations of energy you take in."

10. Maybe your friend isn't the party girl you think she is. "For me, alcohol would temporarily soften the voices from the other side. If I had a beer in my hand, nobody thought twice when I laughed to myself in a solitary conversation. Of course, it wasn't really a one-way conversation, because I was never truly alone."